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  • badsamaritan
    April 22, 2019 at 12:54 pm

    My brother is 19 and is autistic. Ever since my dad passed away, his behaviour has gotten a lot worse. He shouts at us for sneezing or coughing and hates it whenever we do anything that makes us human, basically. I don’t like leaving the house much as he has a record of making my mum upset and/or hurting us. I’ve been through a lot in just my 15 years of living but I won’t go through all of them for privacy reasons but the fact that my brother knows this yet continues to harass my family makes me hate him and I feel terrible when I think that way but… What can you do?

    April 30, 2019 at 8:07 am

    I sort of know how you feel, but my brother is three years younger than me and instead of hitting us, he hits himself. And he just throws a tantrum whenever he doesn’t win on MarioKart or just in general; like not being first to the the door or not being first in the car. Things like that. I don’t know what to do really. I’m only ten, but I feel like I need to help in some way

    May 1, 2019 at 3:42 pm

    My brother is three and a bit years younger than me when he is annoyed and I sing he starts shouting and lashing out at me

    May 21, 2019 at 11:03 am

    Im sorry to hear about that, my brother is 13 and has ASD Aspergers and shouts at us and says he wants to die, I’m sure he dosen’t mean it but it still makes me upset. My Dad has Fibromyalgia and is in pain a lot and its scary for me. I uderstand how hard this is for you too

    June 14, 2019 at 5:20 am

    I have an older autistic brother who is 17 years old this and he has just recently been diagnosed with epilepsy. My family have been an emotional wreck over the past couple of days but they seem to be getting on ok. When I arrived at school one day after not sleeping I had to tell one of my friends that my brother had been diagnosed with epilepsy she asked if I was ok and I just broke down crying because I wanted to say yes but everyone knew I was really upset inside. Everyone in my family thinks I’m fine but I’m not.  This is the place I came to let out all of my feelings.

    July 5, 2019 at 9:21 am

    My brother is 15 and has Autism.He has anger tantrums nearly every day, they can get quite verbally violent/abusive in which he says that we’re a horrible family as well as saying personal things to us that make us feel sad. He has quite bad behaviour at school in which causes arguments at home be sure he believes we are constantly against him. He calls me and my younger sister names that hurt us .Im 16 and have dealing with this since I was about 14.The things he says to me makes me feel terrible about myself and completely ruins my self esteem and self confidence.I understand what all of you are going through

    YoungSibs team2
    July 5, 2019 at 9:23 am

    Hi there
    Thanks for posting. It sounds like you are having a really tough time and things sound really difficult with your brother’ behaviour. Lots of siblings tell us it makes them feel horrible when disabled brothers or sisters say mean or upsetting things. Do remember that your needs are important too and that it isn’t ok for your brother to say things which hurt you and make you feel sad. It is important to get some help if you can from an adult so they understand how this is affecting you – this might be a parent, a relative or a teacher at school. We are here if you need us, do send us a message if you need more help. You can either email us at or use the ‘Ask a Sibling Advisor’ link
    The Sibs Team.

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